Tiff, I have been there, applying for UC (although under different circumstances not involving a man, but it doesn’t matter) and feeling unreasonably ashamed of it. I can tell you now what my good friend said to me back then, “there is no shame. You paid for it with your taxes when you were working, it’s there to help good people get back on their feet and guess what YOU ARE GOOD PEOPLE”. So...
in other news, the recipe looks amazing, if only I could find rice cake or Shacha in this remote corner of Italy 😭😭😭
For the love of god do not put any eggs up your vjay. Esp not steamed eggs (or am I mixing up another goop vjay device?) Burning your lady bits or losing a chunk of rock inside you is not a Good Thing. However--being angry is absolutely a Good Thing. It’s part of the healing journey. You’ve moved beyond feeling helpless into a place where you’re using fire to both protect yourself and burn down the shitty emotions. 🔥🔥🔥
The kindness and empathy of the man at the office made me tear up. He is right, life is unexpected and it’s not forever.
I feel all your sadness and anger and please know that’s OK to not be strong and put on a front. And if the Ex misses your food, make it your thing to always make the yummiest food for yourself and your kids, knowing that he can’t have any of it! Plus the kids will prob tell him about the epic food you make anyway! All my hugs to you xx
There’s nothing shameful for applying universal credit. You are doing it for the sake of your survival and your children’s survival. It is there for a reason and it is to help you. I had to apply for it due to jobs letting me go and I have debt to pay off. It’s better having a bit of money than nothing at all.
This looks so good so I need to get those ingredients soon! I did a couple of petty things to exes because I’m hella petty and it feels good! First example was my second ex and letting him know when he’s f*cking his new girl, he’s going to think of me because I taught him all the moves and showed him where the cl!t is because I took his V card. Second one was another ex of mine gave me the most horrific pink fluffy snow boots as a Christmas gift. I’m 30 years old for goodness sake! Not 7 but I had to pretend to like it despite my reaction was ‘what the f*ck are those?!’ When he broke it off, I gave him back the shoes in a very fragile Sainsbury bag in the middle of Holborn and he couldn’t even return them because the receipt expired so he was stuck with them. He tried to hug me goodbye and I took a step back and said ‘you don’t deserve my affection you gaslighting piece of sh!t’ and walked off into the station. I’m assuming he just stood there as I didn’t turn back.
Tiff, I have been there, applying for UC (although under different circumstances not involving a man, but it doesn’t matter) and feeling unreasonably ashamed of it. I can tell you now what my good friend said to me back then, “there is no shame. You paid for it with your taxes when you were working, it’s there to help good people get back on their feet and guess what YOU ARE GOOD PEOPLE”. So...
in other news, the recipe looks amazing, if only I could find rice cake or Shacha in this remote corner of Italy 😭😭😭
For the love of god do not put any eggs up your vjay. Esp not steamed eggs (or am I mixing up another goop vjay device?) Burning your lady bits or losing a chunk of rock inside you is not a Good Thing. However--being angry is absolutely a Good Thing. It’s part of the healing journey. You’ve moved beyond feeling helpless into a place where you’re using fire to both protect yourself and burn down the shitty emotions. 🔥🔥🔥
You just have to think about Universal Credit you getting back more of what you deserve from the Ex as part of the tax he pays.
And thank you for the recipe. I have all those ingredients (or replacements) in the fridge.
You'll get there. You got this, even if sometimes you don't.
The kindness and empathy of the man at the office made me tear up. He is right, life is unexpected and it’s not forever.
I feel all your sadness and anger and please know that’s OK to not be strong and put on a front. And if the Ex misses your food, make it your thing to always make the yummiest food for yourself and your kids, knowing that he can’t have any of it! Plus the kids will prob tell him about the epic food you make anyway! All my hugs to you xx
There’s nothing shameful for applying universal credit. You are doing it for the sake of your survival and your children’s survival. It is there for a reason and it is to help you. I had to apply for it due to jobs letting me go and I have debt to pay off. It’s better having a bit of money than nothing at all.
This looks so good so I need to get those ingredients soon! I did a couple of petty things to exes because I’m hella petty and it feels good! First example was my second ex and letting him know when he’s f*cking his new girl, he’s going to think of me because I taught him all the moves and showed him where the cl!t is because I took his V card. Second one was another ex of mine gave me the most horrific pink fluffy snow boots as a Christmas gift. I’m 30 years old for goodness sake! Not 7 but I had to pretend to like it despite my reaction was ‘what the f*ck are those?!’ When he broke it off, I gave him back the shoes in a very fragile Sainsbury bag in the middle of Holborn and he couldn’t even return them because the receipt expired so he was stuck with them. He tried to hug me goodbye and I took a step back and said ‘you don’t deserve my affection you gaslighting piece of sh!t’ and walked off into the station. I’m assuming he just stood there as I didn’t turn back.